Most people tend to avoid thinking about the reality of violence against
women and children. It is easier and more comforting to pretend it does
not happen rather than to acknowledge the brutal facts.
When we are forced or choose to acknowledge the reality of sexual violence,
we are often overwhelmed by our rage, incomprehension or sense of helplessness.
If we think of rape as being part of a continuum that ranges from obscene
comments, groping and harassment to violent assault, then all of us,
as women, have experienced the violence of "rape culture".
For those of us who are survivors of sexual violence it is important
to remain focused on our own needs.
There may be a point in our lives when we will choose to transform
our strength and anger into positive action. Men have a vested interest
in maintaining the power imbalance. Generally speaking, we can not rely
on men to act with any real intention of ending sexual violence against
women and children.
If we are to become free, it is up to us!
The rage, incomprehension and sense of helplessness that many of us
experience arise from our recognition of all that is against us.
We are not alone, however. Women all over the world have been and continue
to be engaged in this struggle. The worst that can happen is that our
struggle is forced "underground".
If you want to "do something" but feel confused about where
to start or how to overcome a sense of powerlessness, then here are
a few suggestions.
Awareness
Many women find that organising their thoughts can make them feel much
stronger. You might know what you think is wrong in the world but have
trouble expressing this clearly. You could start by writing down your
experiences and feelings or by talking about them with other women.
It might help to connect your own experiences with other women's experiences
and with political ideas.
Reading can be an
effective way of connecting your experiences to a framework of political
ideas and theories. Spending time gathering information can be a valuable
way of developing a stronger personal awareness as it makes reference
to a broader set of contexts.
Empowerment
A woman who is developing a politicised consciousness is vulnerable
to attack as many people will not want to know about or listen to what
she is saying. You might find yourself bearing the brunt of fierce antagonism
when you express your ideas.
It is often more empowering to discuss your thoughts and feelings in
a safe and supportive environment. You could contact other women's groups,
such as discussion or support groups at a rape crisis centre, or you
might take some classes in self-defence or self-esteem and assertiveness
development.
A lot of strength can be gained by believing in yourself and
other women.
Action
There are many ways in which women who are well-resourced can be effective
in challenging ideas, practices, and structures in the community.
Here are just a few possibilities:
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Join or initiate a support or discussion group at your workplace,
campus, local school, sporting club, neighbourhood or community
centre.
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Let people know what you think!
Write letters to newspapers, local members of parliament or television
stations. Get on to talk-back radio.
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Join or initiate lobby groups or political campaigns and rallies
about issues of concern to women, such as violence against women,
abortion rights, child care and law reform.
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Confront individuals or organisations about their sexist behaviour
or practices.
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